Want to live a lifetime of regret?
Keep on feeding off your own excuses.
Want to wake up one day, realizing how time has passed you by with nothing to show for it?
Keep believing in your own lies.
Want to know what REALLY makes someone a loser?
Keep telling yourself you “cannot do it”.
Want to know what your finger pointing is really doing?
Hiding you from the real problem – YOURSELF.
Want to know what Hell really is about?
That’s the place when, where all is said and done, you get to meet that amazing person you could have become…if you hadn’t wasted your life listening to your own imposed inadequacies.
TIME FOR GROWING…UP
Way too many people walk around in a state of complete denial, just burning out day after day justifying their status quo, instead of looking for the next step ahead.
Look around you. It’s everywhere.
Everyone has an excuse of why they aren’t where they want to be.
It almost always involves finger pointing – because no one wants to admit they are really the ones to blame.
Because if they did, it might mean they are either refusing to do what they should be doing – or they have no idea of what they should be doing.
Any which way, it would sound like they are lost.
And no one wants that.
So, if that is what others are doing, let’s now look inside ourselves.
Are we guilty of the same thing?
More finger pointing and responsibility shuffling?
Do we blame the Universe for something which is ENTIRELY of our own making?
Because, after all, that is the real truth.
We are always the ones to hold the key – to both good and bad.
WE DESERVE EXACTLY EVERYTHING WE SETTLE FOR
Let’s take a very practical parallel, shall we?
This one is right up our street.
Question: what’s the best way to change the way you look?
Let’s say you want a slimmer waistline, shapely legs, tighter buns (yes, that fabled sexy ass!) and more toned and defined arms?
You start working out, right?
Because you know that working out is going to make you grow or change physically.
Doing nothing will only give you more of the same – inactivity just makes you unhealthy and obese.
Duh! So what else is new?
Everyone knows that. No smarties for that one.
But did you know that your workouts are actually a mirror of your life?
It’s true. You don’t only grow when you work out, you can also grow up.
You can actually extrapolate everything that you face in a workout and transform it into a forward impetus for your life.
The parallels are perfect.
Bear with me a moment and I will show you three ways how this works.
ONE – THE LITTLE STEPS
Success is incremental.
I am figuring “success” here means getting from where you are to a better place.
You know, the old from “A to B” thing.
Whatever your reason for working out, and whatever your goals are, it definitely means you want to end up in a better place than where you started off from, right?
Coincidentally enough, that should also be everyone’s goal in life.
Don’t you agree?
Every day, you should be better than yesterday.
Even if it’s just one step better – as long as you have made at least one step in the right direction.
Success is moving a little forward every day.
You will be lifting half a kg more on a certain exercise in two weeks time.
It’s not a phenomenal amount of weight, but it’s a step in the right direction – and that is always a good thing.
Keep that consistent and you will be lifting a LOT more in a year’s time.
And all those increments in weight will translate into a big change in the way you look and feel.
In life, you need to win little goals every day.
Again, in a year, all those little goals will add up to a serious achievement.
You just have to stick with it, whatever it takes.
TWO – THE LITTLE CHALLENGES
Going to the gym is usually going to involve some sort of workout right?
Now, for a workout to be of any use, it has to be challenging.
How many people do you know that tell you they go to a gym and they look almost exactly the same – week after week after month after year (if they last that long)?
Seriously, that is why they have to tell you they go to a gym – because it looks like they are doing nothing at all.
And they are not!
They are just going through the motions.
“Challenging” means it needs to push you to an uncomfortable place – a place where you are going to have to face your limits.
Now, that is one place that is going to be unpleasant for most.
I certainly am uncomfortable facing my own limits. It’s tough being in a situation where you know you might fail.
So, there are two ways you can go about this.
You can go through the motions of a workout. You know, 3 set of 10 reps each.
One, two, three…nine, ten. Done. Yawn.
Every time. Same thing.
Guaranteed to give you NO result. NO challenge involved. NO limits faced.
The same thing the vast majority of people will do in life every day.
Going through the motions. Staying in the safe zone. Taking no risks.
Same thing, day in, day out.
Getting stuck in a 9 to 5 job that does not fulfil them – instead of doing something they love doing.
Exist instead of living.
Could YOU be doing this?
The other option is that you can continuously push yourself.
In your training, it’s an extra rep, every time.
Or adding just a little more weight every time, to make the exercise a little tougher.
Playing with the variables – just to make it harder.
Which is exactly the same thing you have to do in life to succeed.
Aim a little higher every time.
Ask something more of yourself every time.
Do something you are afraid to do because you might fail.
It’s the only way to grow.
The great thing is that once you realize you are breaking your barriers in the gym, you will also be able to translate these to achievements in life.
If you are able to do something during your training today that you could not do last week, then you are definitely able to achieve more in life as well.
It’s all about how bad you want it.
THREE – THE LITTLE FALLS
The road to success is made up of little failures.
At some point along the journey, there are going to be some falls.
When you are working out, and you are going into uncharted waters (a heavy lift, a new technique), there are going to be some injuries.
I have lost count of the number of times I’ve popped or torn something when pushing the envelope.
A heavy squat or bench press, trying to force that extra rep, trying to go extra deep – it’s going to bust something at some point.
Everyone fails – even the most successful people in the world have failed and do still fail at some point.
Hell, Richard Branson’s Virgin Galactic Spaceship Two exploded during its test flight – and that happened with some of the brightest and sharpest minds in the world behind the project.
What’s making you think YOU’RE going to get it easy if you want to fly with the eagles?
Falls are part of the process. They absolutely WILL happen.
The difference between successful people and the ones who never will manage to get anywhere is how they handle their failures.
There are two ways about it.
One way is letting the failure get to you and using it as an excuse to justify your fears.
You know, “I tried and I failed, this is not for me.”
That scenario happens when you really don’t want to succeed badly enough.
When all you are interested in are half hearted attempts – just so you look like you are doing something.
And then you can sit down on the couch and point to your failures, blaming them for your own complacency.
Then there is the other way.
The way where you learn from your failures.
Where each fall gives you new knowledge to face the situation from a different angle.
And each new angle gets you closer and closer to the goal.
You will learn how to lift better, and you will learn how to attack your problems better.
Out of those two ways, which one would you choose?
Which do you think is best?
It’s pretty much a no-brainer isn’t it?
Well, when you REALLY WANT TO SUCCEED, it is.
AVOIDING THE ROAD TO HELL
One of the things that really gets to me the most is the wasting time.
Damn, even the idea of wasting time riles me up.
I’ve done my fair share of it – so I just want to help others to avoid engaging in it as much as possible.
The easy path, the way of least resistance burns up the potential you have – all so you can just sit pretty on the fence.
I have seen way too many people with incredible talent fritter it away just because they were afraid.
People with huge opportunities and the ability to achieve greatness – all thrown away into the wind.
Because sitting down in the hole you dig, and not venturing out, is always the easiest, less risky choice.
Even when this means you are losing the best version of yourself you could ever be.
And that is why I really believe Hell is where you will meet your unstoppable alter ego – the person you WOULD have become IF you faced your fears.
And the hellish part will be that, even with a lifetime of regret behind you, this will be something you can never, ever fix.
It will be too late.
But keep in mind that this situation is entirely up to YOU.
And you are still in time.
You can fix this – if you fix it right now.
This is one of the pillars of our Re-Invention program – a principle we teach those people who have decided they want to invest in themselves, because they are their own best asset.
So if you are interested in avoiding the road to Hell, or walking out of it, just get in touch.
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